If you want to build habits that last, join a group where the desired behavior is the normal behavior
1% better every day at 11:11am - newsletter #069
This quote from James Clear is simply perfect. I also really like the following one: you are the average of the 6 people you spend the most time with. It took me a long time to understand it. let me try to explain what I understand.
Imagine that you're just in your thirties, that you've gained weight and your life doesn't excite you as much as it used to. You have this desire to change that has been slowly building up inside you over the last few months but it is not strong enough to push you into action.
Yet you know you need to lose the 10kgs, both for your life longevity and for your morale.The worst part is that you know what to do: eat healthier and exercise more. Just starting with that would be a big step.
But no matter what you do, you have the feeling that some supernatural force is stopping you. Supernatural, you say? Chances are it has nothing to do with the supernatural at all, but rather with your close entourage (“the people you spend the most time with”).
Motivation gives you the impulse, but it will not take you all the way to the end. If you want to lose weight, if you want to change your life, you have to change the people you see the most and your environment.
Wait. I'm not talking about denying your long-time friends. Far from it. I'm asking you to take a step back and ask yourself if your current situation is the best suited to help you change.
Are your close friends more inclined to beer and chips than Sunday morning jogging?
Do your colleagues prefer to have lunch in fast-food restaurants or to eat healthy meals they have prepared themselves?
Are your whatsapp conversations a bunch of funny videos or personal development articles?
What is the first thing you see when you open your cupboards? Fruit or M&M's?
What is the atmosphere in your summer house? Dead beer bottles in the morning or yoga class at sunrise?
I am extrapolating, but you see my point. I'm not talking about changing everything overnight (well, unless you want explosive results) but about realizing that the world (as it is now) is playing against you. It's hard as it is, and you're adding a major difficulty to yourself!
In short, if you want to lose weight, add an athlete to your entourage and remove (temporarily) the most partygoer. If you want to become an entrepreneur, add an entrepreneur (if possible a successful one), and remove (temporarily) the one who has never created anything in his life. Etc.
Once the desired new habit becomes part of your lifestyle, reincorporate your old friends (who may have a hard time with the "new you").
ONE QUOTE TO SHARE
“If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” - Ellen Johnson Sirleaf
ONE ARTICLE TO READ
How one small business owner flipped the online review ecosystem on its head. In 2014, chef Davide Cerretini advertised a special that would forever change his fate: Anyone who left his restaurant a 1-star review on Yelp would get 25% off a pizza.
See, his Bay Area-based Italian joint, Botto Bistro, was at a crossroads. Like many small businesses, it was enslaved to the whims of online reviewers, whose public dispatches could make or break its reputation.
He’d had enough: It was time to pry the stars from the “cold, grubby hands of Yelpers” and take control of his own destiny. But the move would set Cerretini at the center of a long-standing battle between Yelp and disgruntled business owners — a battle including cries of “extortion,” review manipulation, and predatory advertising tactics.
ONE TEDX TO WATCH
Celebrity nutritionist and entrepreneur shares his stories where he felt goosebumps narrating it. Decoding the dynamics of food and good mood, this will surely ignite your sparks. Dr. Siddhant Bhargava aims to decode diet and put ends on formulaic fitness.
He has shaken up conventional nutrition ideals and affirms that there is no one-size-fits-all policy in fitness. With over 2000 clients and a a celebrity nutritionist, he runs a health company names FoodDarzee.
ONE QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF
Is there a better way? Is there a kinder way?
ONE WORKOUT TO DO
405 reps / time : 15 to 30 min
10x burpees / 10x climbers / 10x Jumps
25x burpees / 25x climbers / 25x Jumps
10x burpees / 10x climbers / 10x Jumps
Go for 3 rounds. If you do it in less than 20min, you’re are in a pretty good shape !
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