The moment I realized the "passive pressure" I was putting on the people around me.
1% better every day at 11:11am - newsletter #052
I am driven daily by a very strong "WHY" (since my 30th birthday), that is to inspire people to conquer their dreams, be they physical, intellectual or cultural. I learned over time to reduce the "active pressure" I could have with the people around me, especially those I love. It's not that yet, but there's progress!
In a discussion with a friend, I realized that there was also "passive pressure". I especially realized that this friend was putting me under passive pressure (because physically fitter than me, stricter on his diet than me, more successful than me,...), that I was a victim of it too. So I understood that night what I was doing in return to the others.
I'm finally starting to connect all the remarks I get, to realize that I can be a very violent "mirror" for some people, and above all, to realize that not everyone likes to see themselves in this “kind of mirror”.
Another friend confessed to me that he can go on holiday for a maximum of 10 days with me. Then it gets to a point of saturation for him. That I do far too many things in my days, that even though he is aware of this "passive pressure", in the end even he himself begins to question... himself.
So this is a great revelation for me! It's one of the pieces of the puzzle that I've been missing until now. I couldn't understand why, even when I stopped my "active pressure", I continued to exhaust the people I love around me.
So what? Like everything else, the first step is to be aware of it, to be conscious of it when it happens. Especially if one day I'm back in a relationship. Who knows, it may happen sooner than expected…
ONE TEXT TO SHARE
“You do something all day long, don’t you? Every one does. If you get up at seven o’clock and go to bed at eleven, you have put in sixteen good hours, and it is certain with most people, that they have been doing something all the time. They have been either walking, or reading, or writing, or thinking. The only trouble is that they do it about a great many things and I do it about one. If they took the time in question and applied it in one direction, to one object, they would succeed. Success is sure to follow such application. The trouble lies in the fact that people do not have an object, one thing, to which they stick, letting all else go. Success is the product of the severest kind of mental and physical application.”
Thomas Edison
ONE ARTICLE TO READ
It is difficult to overstate the importance of headlines. A good headline can entice and engage your audience to click, to read, and to share your content. In many cases headlines are the thing that is shared rather than the article. So you knew that. But do you know what makes an engaging headline?
To help answer this question they analyzed 100 million article headlines.
ONE BRAND TO FOLLOW
Beyond Meat just launched its very first TV campaign last Monday in the United States. In the film, produced by Mythology agency and shown at halftime during an NBA game between the Lakers and the Utah Jazz, the company asks consumers through Oscar-winning actress Octavia Spencer to "think about a better food future for people, animals and the planet".
A future where we could eat a burger with a vegetable steak that is high in protein and cholesterol-free.
ONE QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF
If someone could only see my actions and not hear my words, what would they say are my priorities? (from JamesClear)
ONE WORKOUT TO DO
There are always people crazier than us. That's the case with Beau Miles. He decided to run one mile an hour, for 24hrs, around his perfectly mile long block. The rest of the time he will do as much as possible; making things, odd jobs, fixing stuff.
It's about running, doing, and thinking.
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